12 Things I’ll Never Understand About Modern Dating

1. Why people youre dating freak out when you tell them you like them. They think youre asking for a marriage proposal. They think that means their life is over. They’re always reading too much into what it means for them and for their future.

2.Why you have to play texting games. Why you have to send less emojis and exclamation points so you dont sound too excited. Why you have to wait a few hours to reply because you dont want to seem Why wanting to talk someone suddenly seems

3. Ghosting. Why people just disappear without saying a word, why cant people confront each other maturely, why do they think that the other person will not be able to handle the truth?

4.Why people date when theyre with someone else. Isnt one relationship enough? Shouldnt you leave if youre unhappy in your current relationship? Instead of dating other people and hoping your SO doesnt find out.

5.Acting chill. Staying friends when you want more, settling for late night texts and snapchats because at least its better than nothing and trying too hard to pretend that you dont deeply care about that person because you dont know if they feel the same way.

6.What social media likes really mean. Does it mean theyre interested? Does it mean theyre trying to grab our attention? Does it even mean anything at all?

7.No effort. When they tell you they like you but theres no effort, there are no follow-up texts or calls, theyre not really planning to meet up with you. How are we supposed to build a connection when were from each other?

8.Not knowing where you stand. Are we together or are we not? Are they your plus one yet? Are they dating anyone else? How do we get answers? How do we ask them without pushing them away?

9.When they say theyre not ready but they keep talking to you. They dont want a relationship but they dont want you to forget about them. So they talk to you like nothing happened, they talk to you like you should understand them and accept the situation. They talk to you but they dont want to be you.

10.Judging you based on a photo and a bio. They swipe left if they dont think youre attractive, if you dont have the perfect bio or the best pick-up line. They form an impression before even meeting you and automatically stereotype you.

11.Calling any display of affection needy. They freak out when you go out of your way for them, when you double text or when you call just because you want to hear their voice. They dont like it when you show them how much you like them because they dont want to hurt you so they distance themselves because theyre not ready when all you really wanted to do was get a little bit

12.Expecting to find love but fearing intimacy. They say theyre looking for love but then they pull away when things get intimate when thing get They say theyre looking for love but they throw it away when they find it, then continue to look for it in all the places.

Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book , available here.

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